Love in the Big City – Series Review & Ending Explained

Episode 1

Compatibility

Love in the Big City is a story about compatibility. It examines the nature of relationships, highlighting how we get along or clash with some people based on our personalities. Initially, Young didn't gel with his university friends, a group of straight dudes who talked crudely about women. He ditches them and befriends Mi Ae instead. They have so much in common, from their sense of humour to their carefree attitudes. As Young tells us, "In life, you meet friends you naturally click with. And Mi Ae was one of those friends."

While Young forges a close bond with Mi Ae, his relationship with Nam Kyu struggles. The story highlights many times when the pair seems incompatible. They clashed during their first meeting at the photoshoot. Nam Kyu's strictness about punctuality shows he values structure, whereas Young's lateness indicates his free spirit. The couple also have different tastes in music, disagree on what they find funny, and can't even settle on how fast to drive the car. All these preferences form two people's relationship dynamics. In this case, Nam Kyu and Young share nothing in common. They have negative chemistry.

Nam Kyu

Nam Kyu is one of my favourite characters. Shy and a bit socially awkward, Nam Kyu is the type of guy who'd wear a sweater cardigan to a nightclub. From the moment I saw him clapping his hands and swaying awkwardly to the upbeat pop music, it was love at first sight. Oh, I adore this sweet bean~ 😚 "I'm a little embarrassed," Nam Kyu admits. This nightlife isn't his usual scene, but he left his comfort zone to meet Young. From his nervous smiles and smitten glances, Nam Kyu obviously had a crush on our protagonist.

Nam Kyu has an old-fashioned charm. His music tastes and vocabulary choices (particularly his fondness for the word "splendid") skew older, like he's plucked from another era. Nam Kyu also makes a sweet, doting boyfriend. Besides filling his date nights with touristy attractions, his earnestness shows when he gets excited over exchanging commitment rings or putting locks on a bridge. In addition, Nam Kyu is sentimental. He resonates with inspirational quotes from famous figures, often slipping them into casual chats.

I don't want to make assumptions based on Nam Kyu's upbringing. He reminds us, "It's wrong to hold prejudices about certain regions." However, not growing up in a city may explain his slight naivete. He wasn't exposed to the fast-paced, socially diverse environment that urban life offers. Even so, this purity is what makes Nam Kyu so charming. His intentions seem sincere because he's used to a simple way of living, like a guy with no hidden agendas. The sentimental sweetheart just wanted to make his relationship work. Sadly, Young didn't appreciate him.

Loneliness

Nam Kyu has admitted that he doesn't have friends. His upbringing likely contributed to the loneliness. As someone who grew up enjoying hiking, birdwatching, and nature photography, Nam Kyu doesn't have the same interests as a city dweller. He may feel out of place, especially when many young people form social groups through nightlife culture. In addition, Nam Kyu's shyness adds to his social barrier. Unlike Young, a party animal who sings on stage, Nam Kyu isn't outgoing.

Due to his loneliness, Nam Kyu places a disproportionate weight on his relationship with Young. He's grateful for the rare companionship. Nam Kyu quickly falls in love with Young, eager to express his devotion through grand gestures. He suggests exchanging rings and says mushy lines like, "I want to love you forever", even though they've only just started dating. Nam Kyu's thinking is simple: Young initiated the first kiss, so the feelings must be mutual. Young likes me, I like him, so we're meant to be together. However, Nam Kyu is too naive. He misses the signs that Young doesn't feel the same way.

Nam Kyu opens up during their dates, sharing his interests and opinions. The more he reveals about himself, the less Young realizes they have in common. Initially, Young liked Nam Kyu for complimenting him. Ooh, he called me a good model~ After the flattery fades off, Young is bored with this guy. He thinks Nam Kyu is an old-fashioned square with awkward tastes. Young doesn't show off his boyfriend's photo to Mi Ae when she asks, hinting at his self-consciousness. Instead of feeling proud, he seems embarrassed to be dating Nam Kyu.

Karaoke

The karaoke night marks the couple's breaking point. Nam Kyu feels uncomfortable performing until Young and his friends urge him. "Just sing a song you like," Young reassures his boyfriend, who had been worried about his outdated musical tastes. Despite his reluctance, Nam Kyu wants to fit into Young's social circle. He goes against his shy nature, mustering the courage to leave his comfort zone. He sings a sappy ballad, but it's a boring choice that Young disapproves of. Young thinks he's dating a snoozefest and resents their relationship.

After the performance, Nam Kyu feels insecure. "I should learn some pop songs. I'm sorry," he says, his apology tinged with self-consciousness. Singing his favourite song took courage because he knew it wasn't trendy. Yet, Nam Kyu made himself vulnerable, expressing what he loves. When his boyfriend doesn't respond positively, it feels like a rejection. Nam Kyu found the courage to let his guard down, only to be met with boredom. It's hurtful to express yourself and feel dismissed, especially by someone you care about.

Judgment

Young breaks up with Nam Kyu. The sappy song at karaoke wasn't the main reason, but it highlighted a deeper problem. Young had already felt they were mismatched in personality and interests, so the performance only reinforced their incompatibility. Rather than dragging out a relationship he no longer cares about, Young ends it abruptly. He's eager to move on, setting his sights on a new guy with an exciting personality.

Did Young try to know Nam Kyu better? From their first meeting, he made snap judgments, branding the photographer as a "pervert" who "talks weirdly" after a brief chat. Young carries this shallow perception into their romance. Sure, your boyfriend drives slowly and listens to old-school music, but are those differences enough to justify giving up on your relationship? What about his values, loyalty, and kindness? Nam Kyu had many undiscovered positive traits since Young focused on their differences.

Nam Kyu once quoted Robert Capa, "If your pictures aren't good enough, you aren't close enough." Maybe Young was never close enough to understand Nam Kyu as a person. A writer and a photographer are both creative professions, requiring similar traits. If Young had tried to connect with Nam Kyu, he may have found common ground. Nam Kyu's quote reflects a truth Young overlooked. Meaningful relationships, like art, require intimacy and effort. The breakup says more about Young's superficiality than Nam Kyu's flaws.

Insensitivity

If Young feels uncomfortable with his relationship, he has every right to end it. However, he handles the breakup cruelly. From dumping Nam Kyu abruptly to using harsh language like "dull and frustrating", Young seems insensitive. He mocks Nam Kyu for suggesting compromise and trying harder to match his hobbies. Breaking up with someone is already a hurtful experience because you reject their feelings. On top of the emotional distress, why do you have to be such a dick about it?

Shocked by the breakup, Nam Kyu makes many emotional comments, each reflecting his hurt and confusion. Young's only explanation is that they "just don't fit". This reasoning is vague enough to fuel Nam Kyu's insecurities, leaving him to wonder if his personality, hobbies, or even his love was the problem. His heartbreak is compounded by the lack of closure. "I can't live without you," Nam Kyu says in a panic. This statement showed how much he cherishes this relationship, yet Young dismissed his feelings with a chilling indifference.

Young knows Nam Kyu is a gentle soul who struggles to connect with others. Does he deserve your hostility when you're breaking his heart? Has he done anything to wrong you besides having different tastes? The story delivers a swift dose of karma when Young's new boy toy dumps him. Young cries, realizing rejection doesn't feel good when you're on the other end. Despite the parallels, Young still hasn't learned to empathize with Nam Kyu, rolling his eyes at his ex-boyfriend's text message. Our protagonist is oblivious to the excessive cruelty he inflicted on Nam Kyu.

Episode 1 Review

Early impressions! I loved how Young and Mi Ae are school outcasts who bonded over being kindred spirits. Their friendship is an episode highlight for me. And, of course, Nam Kyu is the most adorable character ever. How can anyone not love him, unless you're a heartless monster like Go Young (I kid, I kid…) After the first episode, I knew I would continue to enjoy Love in the Big City as long as it keeps my two favourite storylines intact. Unfortunately, I will be having a very tough time next episode. 😢

My favourite Nam Kyu moment is when he stretches his arms and asks Young for a hug during the bridge scene. Aww, his little wittle face looks so adorable~ If I was there, I would've asked Nam Kyu to marry me in that instant. 🥹 But instead, Young was annoyed for whatever reason. Ugh, he sucks. I remember Nam Kyu's actor from his last BL drama, The New Employee. I liked him in that series, but his character was more guarded. Here, the actor transforms himself into the most precious cinnamon bun ever. Seeing his range makes me want to see him in another BL project again. Cast him, please!

In the Nam Kyu vs Go Young feud, I'm obviously on Team Nam Kyu. Even after he turns into a stalker in the next episode, I'm still staunchly on his side. I WILL DEFEND THAT MAN UNTIL THE END. I hated how Young treated his boyfriend, especially during their breakup scene. His callousness made me so upset on behalf of Nam Kyu. Young thinks Nam Kyu is "boring", but he also giggles at dick-size jokes with Mi Ae, so that's his idea of entertainment. IMO, Nam Kyu's personality and hobbies are fascinating, even if our protagonist can't appreciate him.

Episode 2

Crisis

Nam Kyu is utterly heartbroken. "How can you cut ties so ruthlessly!?" Young's cruelty from the last episode still lingers in his mind. One moment, they were a couple. The next, Young treated his lover like the enemy. Nam Kyu can't move on after the breakup because this relationship meant everything to him. Unlike Young, who has friends like Mi Ae and a thriving social life, Nam Kyu lacks a support system. Young was his rare source of companionship, so losing that connection amplifies his loneliness.

In a desperate attempt to reconcile, Nam Kyu brings a homemade meal for his ex, waiting outside for hours in the middle of the night. Instead of gratitude, he's met with resentment as Young accuses him of crossing boundaries. Young twists Nam Kyu's intentions into something sinister. You're stalking me! Nam Kyu is humiliated by his desperation. "I hate the way I'm acting. I looked in the mirror after we broke up, and I didn't look human." This devastating line describes the erosion of his self-worth. Rejection has stripped away his dignity and left him feeling dehumanized.

Emotionally and psychologically, Nam Kyu is on the brink of a breakdown. Instead of showing support or sympathy, Young compounds his pain with more cruelty. "I felt suffocated the entire time we were dating." Young's remark crushes Nam Kyu's already fragile self-esteem. Young later ridicules Nam Kyu to his friends, who call him "nutty" and "obsessive", even suggesting Young should've "kneed him". What did Nam Kyu do to deserve such scorn? Was falling in love and wanting to hold on to his relationship such an unforgivable sin?

Betrayal

Once again, the story's karma comes swiftly to humble our protagonist. Mi Ae betrays Young by outing him to her boyfriend during an argument, using her friend's sexuality as a shield to deflect attention away from herself. Her actions reek of straight privilege. She wields a secret that isn't hers to share, completely underestimating the risks involved. Unlike Mi Ae, Young has to live with the consequences of being outed, a dangerous revelation that impacts his safety and livelihood.

Mi Ae's actions, while hurtful, stemmed from the pressure she faced. Her boyfriend questioned why she lived with a guy. Already labelled as promiscuous, Mi Ae wanted to redeem her reputation in a society that unfairly polices women's behaviour. She was judged for her lifestyle in ways a man wouldn't be. Outing Young became a misguided way to deflect the scrutiny off herself, a move made from desperation rather than malice. Young's earlier statement, "We learned that being a gay man and being a woman equally suck," resonates here. Both marginalized groups face societal judgment and unfair treatment.

Mi Ae's betrayal mirrors Young's treatment of Nam Kyu, highlighting the pain of being hurt by someone close. Young mocked Nam Kyu's heartbreak earlier, unable to empathize with his ex. However, Mi Ae's thoughtless outing forces Young to experience that same sting of betrayal. "Why didn't you ask me!? Don't you care how I feel!?" he shouts, incredulous at how little regard Mi Ae showed for his emotions. Young finally understands what Nam Kyu felt during their breakup. It's devastating when a loved one diminishes your feelings so ruthlessly.

Second breakup

As Young and Mi Ae argue, her "fucking loner" remark hits a raw nerve. She attacks a vulnerability that Young masks with his outgoing persona. After their fallout, Young reflects on the pain he caused Nam Kyu during their breakup. Reckless words, he realizes, can be lethal to someone's self-esteem. With this newfound empathy, Young reaches out to his ex-boyfriend. Nam Hyu is hopeful for reconciliation. Instead, Young breaks up with him again, except he handles it with care this time.

The second breakup is a redo of the first, which felt harsh and inconsiderate. This time, Young adopts a gentler tone, apologizing for how he mistreated Nam Kyu. Instead of listing their incompatibilities, Young emphasizes Nam Kyu's best traits and expresses gratitude for their relationship. He ends with a heartfelt message: "Meet someone who'll truly love you." Young gives his ex-boyfriend closure and encouragement to move on. This was the classy breakup speech Nam Kyu deserved in the first place. It may have taken two tries, but Young learns how to part ways respectfully.

Nam Kyu's death

Nam Kyu dies in a car accident caused by speeding, a tragically ironic demise due to his cautious driving style. After the breakup, he felt pressured to change his habits. An ex-boyfriend's rejection caused these feelings of inadequacy, like being the safe, steady guy made him unattractive. Nam Kyu felt his natural personality wasn't lovable. He needed to drive faster, take more risks, and push himself further out of his comfort zone. The story highlights the psychological harm of self-doubt, which led to Nam Kyu's undoing.

Nam Kyu's death is a metaphor for the dangers of changing too much to appease others. Forcing yourself to be someone different can kill you, both physically and psychologically. Living at your own pace is better than trying to match the expectations of others.

Young is reflective at Nam Kyu's funeral, delivering a poignant quote: "I used to think he was too slow and that I was too fast. In reality, it was the other way around." This quote refers to how Nam Kyu fell in love too quickly, whereas Young was too slow to appreciate his partner's sincerity. "I realize too late that he was someone I could have shared a long future with. An endless future, full of warmth." Oh, this sorry asshole finally gets it. Now, he understands Nam Kyu was the perfect husband material. He was devoted to you for life. And yet, you treated him like trash… 😭

Mi Ae

Young loses Nam Kyu forever, but at least he regains Mi Ae's friendship. Ten months later, he contacts her. Young could've held a grudge, but he chose to rebuild their bond. They start talking, falling into their familiar banter, neither acknowledging their last argument. The strength of their friendship heals any emotional wounds over time. While Mi Ae never apologizes, she gets teary-eyed when Young mentions winning an award. She regrets missing his achievement and not being there to support him.

Mi Ae insists that Young must sing at her wedding, even though her best friend isn't a professional. This gesture indicates how much she cherishes her bond with Young. It's one of the most important days in her life, and she wants him there on stage with her. Unlike what happened with the award, Mi Ae won't let another milestone pass by without her friend. Episode 2 also began with Mi Ae's abortion, another important life event where Young had supported her. By ending this episode with the wedding, the narrative comes full circle. It shows how their friendship has prevailed through highs and lows.

The wedding performance is a joyous moment, but there's also an undercurrent of sadness. As Mi Ae begins her life as a married woman, her priorities shift toward her new family and away from Young. Their friendship, while still strong, will inevitably change. The song is almost like a bittersweet farewell, knowing they may never be as close as they were in the past. This episode contains a few scenes with cars, including when Mi Ae argues with her boyfriend. The vehicles represent the theme of transition, as Mi Ae takes her future in a different direction from Young.

Episode 2 Review

I FELL TO MY KNEES SOBBING. WHY DID NAM KYU HAVE TO DIE??? 😭😭😭 Nam Kyu's sudden death hit me like a sledgehammer. The worst part is that he left the world feeling alone, heartbroken, and anxious about himself, no thanks to Young. I guess Nam Kyu needed to die for thematic reasons, but I wanted him to live and have a new romance in his own spin-off, Love in the Small Town. I'm also sad Nam Kyu will never fulfill his dream of becoming a bird photographer. Give this sweet angel back to us, cruel universe! 😭

After Nam Kyu's death, I was upset they killed my favourite character in such a tragic way. FUCK THIS TRASH SERIES. I came unbelievably close to scoring this episode and the entire drama an F. I was so mad lmaoooo. Even though I calmed down by the end, I'm still really bitter about Nam Kyu's death. I held a vendetta against Young for treating Nam Kyu so terribly. YOU HEARTLESS BASTARD!!! In the next storyline, Young gets assigned the worst boyfriend ever. Secretly, I was clapping my hands and celebrating his karma, mwhahaha~

Awww, I'm glad Young and Mi Ae are friends again! Their feud stressed me out so much. Although Mi Ae shouldn't have outed her friend, I still sympathized with her situation. And it's sweet that she includes her bestie in the wedding plans. She's living the dream on her wedding day, celebrating with both her husband and her other gay husband. I adore the moment Mi Ae runs over to sing with Young. Recently, she has been trying to clean up her image. But, in that instance, her rebellious personality emerges, reminding us of the Mi Ae we first met.

Episode 3

Desires

Episode 3 begins with a cheeky opening scene as Young tries to catch the attention of a male jogger. He steals glances, flashes coy smiles, and pretends to stretch to stay in the jogger's line of sight. The story reminds us of how Young has pent-up urges in his sex drive. Later, Young meets Yeong Su, a student from his philosophy class. In his introduction scene, Yeong Su is dehydrated and drinks from Young's coffee. Although subtle, this moment alludes to Yeong Su's desires.

Drinking from someone else's cup is an intimate gesture. It crosses a boundary and carries subtle undertones of closeness. In this scene, Yeong Su's physical thirst is a metaphor for his emotional and sexual longing. By choosing Young's cup, Yeong Su's desires are directed at him. Thirst is often used symbolically to represent craving, whether for love, intimacy, or fulfillment. Yeong Su quenches his thirst through something belonging to Young, implying his hidden attraction.

The couple bonds over their family trauma, but Young notices discrepancies between them. Yeong Su plays sports, which Young finds boring. However, our protagonist learns from his last romance and doesn't break up over different interests. He participates in a game and tries to connect with what Yeong Su enjoys. The more time the couple spends together, the less compatible they seem. A notable scene is when Yeong Su throws a tantrum at a costume party. While Young's desires for Yeong Su deepens, the story hints that cracks may form in this new relationship.

Episode 3 Review

I love how Episodes 3 and 4 are filmed. Everything looks dreamy and beautiful. I noticed the visual style shifted dramatically between the episodes. While it didn't look bad before, this set of episodes elevates the cinematography to another level. Every frame feels more thoughtfully composed. Even a simple conversation begins with a view outside the window before transitioning to intimate close-ups as the characters talk. As Young and Yeong Su fall in love in the second half of the episode, the ambiance

Young's actor (Nam Yoon Su) brings a bit of flirtation to his character. I like his expressions in the opening scene, where he covertly flirts with the jogger with coy glances and suggestive smiles. Similarly, I like how he portrays his demeanour around Yeong Su, his new love interest. The actor conveys desire, so you can tell that his character is attracted to the hunky philosopher. One example is when Young lusts after Yeong Su on the sports field. That scene relies on the performer's expressions and mannerisms to communicate Young's feelings, which he does splendidly.

My first impression of Yeong Su is that he seems mysterious. He holds back information about himself, making you intrigued about his background. The first half of the episode was dedicated to his ambiguous sexuality. However, I figured he was attracted to men. Would the episode spend so much time on a random character who isn't a love interest? Probably not, right? Personality-wise, I find Yeong Su pretentious with his spiels about the universe. It's poetic justice that Young got stuck with the boring philosopher after complaining about how dull Nam Hyuk was lol.

Episode 4

Yeong Su

Initially, Yeong Su seems appealing due to his air of mystery. The new love interest has a secret job, an ambiguous sexuality, and a cryptic tattoo. He also speaks vaguely with grandiose statements about the universe. Yeong Su's lack of transparency works in his favour, making Young more intrigued instead of losing interest. Young's last boyfriend was an open book, whereas his new partner is a fascinating puzzle. Ooh, tell me about the laws of the universe, Mr. Tree Tattoo!

Beneath Yeong Su's enigmatic demeanour, a troubled man is in turmoil. As more secrets unravel, Young discovers the depth of his boyfriend's internalized homophobia. Yeong Su is closeted and panics over the idea that someone may question his sexuality. Attending a costume party? Gay. Going on walks with another man? Gay. Eating pasta at a restaurant? Gayyyy. Yeong Su hates himself so much that he works for a homophobic research institute. He compromises his morals by writing harmful articles that condemn his existence.

Yeong Su's self-loathing poisons his relationship with Young. He refuses to meet his boyfriend's cancer-stricken mother, unwilling to go public with their relationship. In the final act, Yeong Su plays the villain, making himself appear unlovable so Young will hate him enough to leave. Whether moving to America for work is a lie or not doesn't matter. The intent is to push Young away, freeing him from this forbidden romance. Although Yeong Su stays trapped in the closet, he wants his ex to be with someone who can love him openly.

Mother

Go Young has a complicated relationship with his mother, balancing love with frustration. His feelings are a mix of affection, annoyance, and a sense of obligation. In the hospital scenes, she playfully scolds him while he responds with mild exasperation. The story captures the complexity of their bond, showing the good, the bad, and everything in between. It leaves viewers to interpret and pick the moments that resonate most.

Young and his mother share a rocky history. Flashbacks reveal the darkest moments of Young's adolescence, including conversion therapy and a suicide attempt. Yet, they have overcome those trials to build a resilient relationship. She's now proud of her son, keeping an album filled with newspaper clippings of his writing achievements. Despite her homophobic past, she secretly stores a photo of Young and his new boyfriend at the back of the album. It symbolizes how her views have evolved. His happiness with another man is a source of pride for her.

Young shares a final conversation with his mother, who is at the end of her battle with cancer. Rather than dwelling on the tragedy of her death, the story focuses on healing. The mom acknowledges her past mistakes, admitting her homophobia was misguided and rooted in weakness. "I hurt you because my heart is frail." Her enlightenment is poignant. After years of pain and misunderstanding, her ability to express remorse allows Young to feel accepted. This moment of clarity arrives just before her death, like a precious gift of closure that many don't get.

Episode 4 Review

OMG. Oh wow, Young and Yeong Su's makeout session is so steamy! My favourite moment is when Yeong Su grabs Young's body, lifts his partner in the air, and puts him on the table. He proceeds to take off his shirt, shows off his divine body, and kisses Young passionately. The slick camera work makes this exchange more titillating. Every shot gets my heart thumping! Before this encounter, I didn't understand why Young still dated this guy, who had many red flags. But now I get it. The sex must be phenomenal~

I tried to extend some grace to Yeong Su's character. In my mind, I understand the complex psychology behind self-loathing. I didn't judge Yeong Su when he panicked about meeting acquaintances at the park or declined to meet his boyfriend's dying mother. However, his research paper is so damn sinister. Imagine dating a guy and then finding out he wrote a whole article about the "evils of homosexuality". OMFG, Yeong Su is the nightmare love interest from hell! I'm glad Young threw away his ex-boyfriend's writing at the end of the episode. That crap goes into the trash, where it belongs.

There are interesting parallels between Yeong Su and Young's parents. Young's mother used to be homophobic, while Yeong Su's self-loathing is a form of internalized homophobia. During a flashback, we learn that Young's father led a double life and had two families. Yeong Su also presents different versions of himself, carefully separating his public persona from his secret love affair. Essentially, Yeong Su embodies the family trauma that shaped Young's upbringing. All the issues that Young faced during his childhood have come back to haunt him in adulthood.

Episode 5

Gyu Ho

Gyu Ho, the new love interest, is a sweet and nurturing character. His kindness shines in the opening scene, where he nurses Young's injury on the dance floor. From then on, he consistently looks after those around him, whether it's his brother or the patients at his hospital. Gyu Ho expresses his affection through small but thoughtful gestures, like cooking for Young or bringing him snacks. He wants to ensure his partner is well-fed, a sign of his caring nature.

In one scene, Gyu Ho visits Young's apartment to install curtains. He fixes a subtle issue bothering his partner without even being asked. This gesture isn't flashy or romantic, but it underscores Gyu Ho's practical side. He's a down-to-earth guy who conveys his feelings through meaningful everyday actions rather than grand displays of romance. Later, Gyu Ho leaves his toolbox behind. On one hand, it's a gift, providing Young with tools to be self-sufficient. On the other, it represents the growing intimacy between them. Gyu Ho feels at home enough to leave a piece of himself behind.

Gyu Ho's arrival comes at a crucial time since Young is grieving the loss of his mother. His warmth brings comfort to Young's life when he needs it most. A pivotal moment in their relationship occurs when Young reveals his HIV diagnosis, a sensitive topic that could have led to fear or rejection. Instead, Gyu Ho responds with compassion, creating a safe space for Young to feel accepted. Gyu Ho's kindness and dependable nature make him an ideal romantic partner. Let's hope Young realizes what a gem he has and doesn't let him slip away!

Episode 5 Review

Mi Ae makes a short appearance, and I like that she keeps in touch with Young after marriage. We get a quick glimpse of her current shenanigans. She's converting her innocent sister-in-law into her protégé and coaching her about nightlife! While the scene is playful, it implies a growing distance between Mi Ae and Young. He feels bored and leaves midway, indicating these best friends no longer have much in common. Despite their closeness during university, their adult lives don't seem compatible. 😞

Aww, Gyu Ho seems really sweet! He has the best qualities of the last two boyfriends, including Nam Kyu's kindness and Yeong Su's physical affection. Everything about Gyu Ho checks out, from his endearing personality to his delightful rapport with Young. He comes across as a perfectly suitable love interest. Unfortunately, I have a bad feeling Young will still find a way to sabotage this romance. Our protagonist has the "two-episode itch", which prevents him from keeping a long-term relationship. After two episodes, he'll get the inexplicable urge to break up with his boyfriend, one excuse or another.

Young's HIV condition, or "Kylie," is revealed at the end of this episode, but I wish we had known from the start. This detail is so significant that it feels misplaced as a surprise revelation midway through the series. It also makes me reconsider Young's past sexual encounters. Did he even tell Yeong Su, or was the conversation skipped because it never happened? In my opinion, this plot point should be better executed. It raises concerning questions about Young's responsibility and transparency in his relationships, which the story doesn't address clearly.

Episode 6

Monotony

Monotony starts to affect Young and Gyu Ho's feelings for each other. They no longer seem to have fun as a couple, and their low sex drive becomes a source of conflict. I believe Gyu Ho's sincerity when he reassured Young that HIV isn't an issue for him, but they may face other deterrents. Young insists on wearing condoms as a safety precaution, whereas Gyu Ho dislikes them and struggles to stay aroused while using one. Their incompatibility in sex may have discouraged them from a fulfilling physical bond.

Sadly, Gyu Ho lacks the romantic flair of Young's past love interests. Nam Kyu, the photographer, loved exploring the world. He planned extravagant dates filled with touristy attractions. Yeong Su, the philosopher, was intellectually curious. He shared random trivia and held fascinating conversations. In contrast, Gyu Ho is an ordinary guy whose routine revolves around eating, working, and sleeping. This small-island boy doesn't have the worldly or cultured experiences of someone from the city. Without the imagination to reignite the missing spark in his romance, Gyu Ho struggles to captivate his partner.

Another source of conflict emerges when the couple moves in together, as living in close quarters exposes their incompatible habits and preferences. Young's snoring becomes a nightly annoyance for Gyu Ho. Gyu Ho's habit of doing laundry in the room makes Young complain about the detergent smell. Even Gyu Ho's casual fashion, like his love for Mickey Mouse shirts, clashes with Young's elegant wardrobe. These seemingly minor differences create tension in their shared space. What should be a cozy domestic life becomes a breeding ground for frustration.

Ambition

The story suggests that work becomes a source of tension for the couple. Gyu Ho is hardworking, juggling a full-time nursing job and a part-time bartending gig for a while. His ambition is evident, and he earns praise from his colleagues for his performance. When Gyu Ho shares this positive feedback, Young responds with playful jabs, calling him a "hick" and a "pushover". The remarks feel oddly misplaced. Could it be that Young is resentful of his partner's success while struggling to advance in his own career?

Gyu Ho explains his motivations for working hard: "I've never had anything of my own… Always felt like I lived in someone else's home." With an older brother excelling in medicine, Gyu Ho feels overshadowed by comparison. By working hard, he can take pride in his own accomplishments. Career success gives him self-validation instead of competing against his sibling. Earning money also means gaining financial freedom, allowing him to buy a future home. Gyu Ho wants to live independently without relying on others for support. It's empowering to afford something on your own.

When Gyu Ho gets an overseas job offer, he hopes Young will join him. Ultimately, he chooses his career over their relationship. At the airport, Gyu Ho hesitates and asks, "Will you be okay without me?" Young's silence frustrates Gyu Ho, who storms off without a goodbye. While Young wants Gyu Ho to stay, he doesn't want to stand in the way of his partner's dreams. By staying quiet, he allowed Gyu Ho to prioritize his ambitions without feeling guilt or obligation. This decision wasn't easy for Young. His teary-eyed expression reveals his pain at letting go of someone he loved.

Episode 6 Review

Damn, I was rooting for Young and Gyu Ho's relationship to work out. Gyu Ho seemed to have the most staying power out of the three love interests. He has a great personality, gives hot kisses, and likes to look after his boyfriend. What more do you want? Young is so damn nitpicky that he manages to find flaws in the perfect partner. HOW DARE YOU WASH MY LAUNDRY!? I HATE YOU! We have two more episodes left to introduce a new guy for our protagonist, but I doubt anyone would be better than Gyu Ho.

Going on a trip is a good idea for Young and Gyu Ho to revive their dying romance. However, what starts as a vacation to explore Thailand hilariously turns into an extended staycation in their hotel bathtub. The couple spends hours making out in the tub. Their kissing scene starts during the daytime, but in the next shot, it's already nighttime, and they're still intertwined. LMAO. Did their entire romantic getaway revolve around the bathroom? Iconic. To be fair, we see them doing other activities later, but we all know what the vacation highlight was~ 😉

Sadly, not even vacation sex can save this relationship. Young and Gyu Ho argue again after their return. I'm sorry, but why can't Young get along with his love interests? Gyu Ho seems easygoing, right? It shouldn't be difficult to live with him. The common denominator starts to feel like a ~Go Young~ problem. 😓 The story highlights how finding a perfectly compatible partner is impossible. Even Gyu Ho and Young still clash over little things in their living arrangement. Relationships demand compromise to survive, since no two people can be compatible in everything.

Episode 7

Go Young

After three failed long-term relationships, Young feels disillusioned. He admits, "I want to cry, but I have no tears." Young internalizes the belief that he's dysfunctional in romance and incapable of holding onto a partner. This pessimism deepens when he quits his job to write full-time, leaving him with too much time to dwell on his past. As Young grows cynical about long-term commitment, Young turns to meaningless hookups to distract himself from loneliness.

The story connects Young's emotional struggles to his upbringing. Both of his parents served as bad examples of love and stability, teaching him dysfunction from a young age. A key symbol is the mattress gifted by his father, which represents a "bad foundation." The story suggests Young's inability to succeed in relationships stems from this broken foundation from his family. When his father is exposed in a scandalous news report, Young throws away the mattress and rejects the toxic patterns he inherited. To truly move forward, he must stop mirroring his parents' mistakes.

Young meets Habibi, a mysterious businessman from Japan. Like Young, Habibi is emotionally unavailable and seeks only anonymous connections. When flirting, Young describes himself as "a bomb" and "a nuclear weapon". The comparisons reveal how he internalized the belief that he's toxic and destructive in relationships. In the final scene, Habibi and Young run around a staircase, trying to catch each other but going nowhere. This imagery symbolizes their lack of direction. Both men are lost in their psychological journeys and searching for clarity.

Episode 7 Review

Those three friends… Initially, I thought one of them might become a love interest lol. Even without a romantic arc, the story could have done more with these supporting characters. The trio is prominent enough and appears in many scenes, especially in this episode. Yet, I don't know much about them besides a gaggle of gays. It's nice that the protagonist can count on them for emotional support, but where did they come from? How did they meet? Can we give them more identity?

I like how this episode captures the loneliness of being gay. Many stories, especially in the BL genre, are centred on romance. They focus heavily on falling in love or finding a relationship. These narratives often overlook the other reality, which involves long periods of solitude. What happens when you're gay and alone? Young's cynicism about relationships, his meaningless hookups, and his internalized belief that he's dysfunctional explore a different side of the gay experience. Not every story is about finding "the one". Sometimes, it's about finding yourself, even if that journey is filled with bleakness.

I also like how this episode focuses more on Young as an individual. Before, he was consistently attached to one of his love interests. He was Nam Kyu's boyfriend, Yeong Su's boyfriend, or Gyu Ho's boyfriend. His identity often seemed tied to the relationship drama. In contrast, this episode allows us to understand Young's perspective more intimately. His internal battles with self-doubt and loneliness take centre stage, showing that his character has more to offer than just being half of a couple.

Episode 8

Loneliness

The last episode takes Young to Bangkok, revisiting where he once vacationed with Gyu Ho. As he navigates the city, his loneliness stands out. Flashbacks show the couple in happier times, filled with laughter and playful banter. These cheerful scenes differ from Young's current reality. He now sits alone in the same hotel room or wanders through familiar landmarks, but there's no one he can share the memories with. Young regrets the love he has lost.

Young was supposed to travel with Habibi, but the couple spent most of their trip apart. Habibi, a closeted family man who cheats on his wife, remains distant physically and emotionally. Although Young pretends to be enthusiastic when they meet, Habibi doesn't truly understand or connect with him like Gyu Ho once did. Their only bonding moment comes through excessive drinking, as they use alcohol to numb their unhappiness. Despite being together, their vacation feels empty and meaningless. Both men are too consumed by their own troubles.

The episode highlights how vacations are only enjoyable with the right partner. Despite being in a beautiful destination with a wealthy lover, Young feels unfulfilled on this trip and can't recreate his past happiness. Young tells Habibi, "I wanted to comfort you, but I realized those feelings were just familiarity, not love." They're only together because both men feel miserable. They met on a hookup app to escape their loneliness, not out of a genuine interest in each other. In the end, being with the wrong person can feel just as isolating as being alone.

Perspective

Perspective is a central theme in the last episode. There's a lot of subtle symbolism around vision, like the contact lens prescription, closing the hotel curtains to the window view, or Gyu Ho's inability to see the "crystal penis" building after switching rooms. Habibi also reveals his temporary blindness. All these moments allude to the idea that you may lose sight of what's important. In Young's case, he couldn't see how good his relationship was until Gyu Ho left him.

When they used to be dating, Young fixated on Gyu Ho's minor flaws, like laundry habits or being late for a date. Over time, he lost sight of what made Gyu Ho special, only focusing on why his partner annoyed him instead of his endearing qualities. This pattern repeats in his other romances. Remember when Young dismissed Nam Kyu's sweet nature because he only paid attention to their different interests? Young's focus on compatibility issues distorts his view of a loving relationship.

In the last episode, Young learns to change his perspective. He stops focusing on why his relationships failed. Instead, he reflects on his bond with Gyu Ho and realizes how happy they were together. The issues that once bothered him (like Mickey Mouse shirts) seem trivial. Even "Kylie" was a challenge that could be conquered. Contrary to his pessimistic view of himself, Young isn't a dysfunctional lover. He's capable of loving someone wholeheartedly in a fulfilling relationship. As Young regains optimism, he wants to feel hopeful about romance again.

Habibi

"One night, the darkness came." With these dramatic words, Habibi talks about how he lost his vision during a health scare. While his blindness is a physical condition, it's also metaphorical. Clearly, Habibi has lost sight of what matters in his life. He abandons his wife and young daughter to go globetrotting with a male lover. However, Habibi feels ashamed about betraying his family. He mutters the protesters' chants because he perceives himself as evil.

As a closeted married man, Habibi feels depressed about his lonely life. He can't connect emotionally with his wife, yet he's left unfulfilled by his casual gay hookups. The secrecy, deceit, guilt, and torment take their psychological toll on him. Habibi develops an obsessive habit of photographing lamps, chandeliers, and ceiling fans. These fixtures, hanging precariously, mirror his fragile mental state. Each picture captures the desperation of a man losing his willpower. Habibi clutches onto the last moments of stability before his mind is consumed by darkness.

The story uses Habibi as a cautionary tale to warn what happens when you're stuck in one perspective. Blinded by pessimism, Habibi sees no bright future for himself. His life appears so hopeless that he compares it to darkness. During their breakup, Young leaves an encouraging message for his ex-lover. Habibi's future doesn't have to be defined by unhappy marriages or extramarital affairs. If only Habibi can gain a clear vision, he may see that an honest life is more fulfilling in the long term.

Happiness

The rainy weather disrupts Young and Gyu Ho's vacation, with heavy downpours ruining their outdoor plans. As Young runs to escape the rain, Gyu Ho surprises him by lying down in the middle of the road. Bringing his islander optimism, Gyu Ho shares that he used to do this as a child. While Young is incredulous, Gyu Ho's enthusiasm convinces his boyfriend to join him. The visually stunning scene captures both men lying on the wet street, raindrops cascading over them.

As the rain intensifies, Young feels uncomfortable and complains about the wetness. Yet, Gyu Ho smiles serenely and says, "I'm so happy right now. Being here with you makes me happy." It's a powerful statement, showing that Gyu Ho can find joy when the conditions are miserable. Even though the storm should be unpleasant, Gyu Ho's optimism allows him to cherish the experience simply because he's with Young. He can persevere through hardships, focusing on the good rather than letting difficulties overshadow the relationship.

A positive mindset is essential to overcoming tough times. No couple is perfectly compatible or without disagreements, so there will always be rainy days alongside the sunshine. Even though Young and Gyu Ho may clash, focusing on their happy moments helps them weather the storm together. Later, they acknowledge their dynamic, joking about their endless cycle of arguing and making up. Conflict is a natural part of being together, but it doesn't define their relationship. Their love endures because of their willingness to reconcile and hold onto one another.

Ending Explained

Love in the Big City has a sad ending because Young and Gyu Ho don't reconcile as you would expect them to. The couple remains broken up in the finale and haven't kept in touch for over a year. In fact, they aren't even living in the same city. While Young is alone in Seoul, Gyu Ho still has a year left to work in Shanghai. Despite their separation, the story leaves room for interpretation, balancing heartbreak with hope.

The final scene is a poignant memory. Young and Gyu Ho release a lantern into the sky after writing their wishes on it. Young crosses out his original wish and writes only Gyu Ho's name. "The only thing I left on the lantern, my two syllable was love." The lantern bursts into flames and crashes into the water, symbolizing how their relationship burned out under the weight of unresolved issues. Yet, the flashback ends with the two holding hands, a tender moment suggesting their love can endure despite the challenges.

By the end of the story, Young comes to an important realization: he loves Gyu Ho. Whether they reconcile after Gyu Ho's return remains uncertain, but their history shows they've overcome difficulties before. Gyu Ho's optimistic nature makes him someone who can forgive and rebuild their bond. Even if they don't get back together, Young has changed. He knows what he wants from love and feels more confident in navigating future relationships. This perspective ensures he can approach his next romance thoughtfully, whether it's with Gyu Ho or someone new.

Ending Review

Wow, what a visually stunning finale! My body is shaking a little at how incredible everything looks. Just a few years ago, I never imagined a Korean BL drama would have the budget and resources to film at this level. I especially love that the couple travelled to Bangkok, with the city's vibrant atmosphere captured beautifully on screen. My favourite moment has to be the rain scene. Watching the raindrops fall on Young and Gyu Ho's faces creates striking imagery.

And the sex scene… OMFG. It's almost narrative-breaking because I can't believe Young and Gyu Ho would still break up after pounding each other like that. Did your boyfriend not dick you good enough? Why would you leave him!? Besides their scorching physical chemistry, I adore the couple's goofy interactions throughout the finale. Whether they're chasing each other around or shopping at the market, it's just so fun to see them act carefree and enjoy time together. This vacation highlights the best version of Young and Gyu Ho, reminding us of how compatible they are.

Near the end of the episode, Young moves out of his old apartment for a new chapter in his life. Once again, he throws away his mattress, symbolizing his desire for a fresh start. Before leaving, Young places a small flower in a perfume bottle by the window, a tender gesture that reveals his sentimentality. While Young is ready to leave his past behind, he hasn't completely hardened or dismissed his experiences. Instead, he honours them with a tribute. Despite the struggles, Young acknowledges there were moments of beauty worth remembering.